When we spoke, Hava was a 67 year-old widow. Her husband Menachem, an internationally known history professor, was killed in June 1989, by two Palestinian Arabs, who committed their murderous act to assure an induction to their terrorist cell.
A retired teacher who had become an editor, Hava spoke poetically about her childhood in the lush, green fields of the
. It was a happy and fearless
childhood until the breakout of the 1939 Arab riots. She was eleven. Jordan Valley
At eighteen, following "Black Saturday,” she joined Palmach, the elite fighting force of the mainstream Jewish underground in Mandatory Palestine. “Black Saturday” was a Sabbath day in June 1946, when the British authorities arrested a large number of Palestinian Jews, accusing them of clandestine activity.
At twenty four she married Menachem, whom she had met at
when both were
students there. In time, they had a son, three daughters, and six
grandchildren. A seventh grandchild was born three months after Nenachem's murder. Hebrew
Menachem was born in 1925 in
. In 1938
he immigrated with his parents to Poland ,
escaping the Nazis. Palestine
Believing that his best ideas came to him while walking, Menachem walked each morning from his home in Emek Hamatzleva (Valley of the Crucifixion) to
National Library at the Givat Ram campus of .
It was on his way there that he was murdered. Through her living room window
she showed me the spot where he had been killed, covered by then with newly
grown trees. Her friends had suggested that she move to another part of the
city, but she loved the valley and the apartment, where she had hoped to grow
old with her husband. Hebrew University
As a historian Menachem was concerned with the rise of extremism among the Israelis and Palestinians alike. Yet, the optimist that he was, he enthusiastically supported peace between the two communities, predicting that they would come to an agreement. But he did not live to see the day when
Palestine Liberation Organization (PLO) took the first step toward peace (defunct
now) when they signed the Oslo Agreement in 1993. Israel
Like Menachem, she supported peace with the Palestinians. Recognizing their suffering, she believed that most were decent human beings who desired peace. But she could not view Menachem's murderers as humans. And even though she generally supported the release of Arab political prisoners, she agreed with the Israeli government’s decision not to release prisoners whose hands were stained with blood; for, their acts did not constitute freedom fighting but acts of a vicious murder. And while she acknowledged that such thinking might appear to be influenced by Menachem's murder, she insisted that in reality it reflected her own sense of justice.
While Hava realized that all conflicts had casualties, she could not accept victims of terrorist acts as casualties of war, for to her murderers were not warriors. And even though her opinion on that matter was similar to that of the right-wing Association of Terror Victims, she insisted that her view was removed from the vision of that organization, which vehemently opposed peace with the Palestinians.
In spite of the fact that she was born into the reality of a bloody conflict on the eve of the 1929 Arab riots, and even though her generation, like mine, was raised to believe in the idea of sacrificing one’s life for the sake of the state, like Bat-Ami, as told in my last blog, she valued human life over all else, believing that life must be sanctified for the sake of life itself.
She was prepared to capitalize on her status in order to influence public opinion in favor of peace with the Palestinians. But she realized that some terror victims could be the first to oppose peace with the Arabs. And even though for her there was no alternative but peace, she understood that like all historical processes the peace process would be long, with up and down cycles; and yes, common memories of past violence cold serve as a tool for reconciliation.
She confessed that her friends wondered why she was still so hopeful about peace with the Palestinians after the murder of her husband. But she did not equate all Palestinians with Menachem's killers. That was why she disapproved of collective punishment; and that was why she deplored the demolition of houses belonging to the families of Palestinian terrorists.
For few days in the autumn of 1994, Esther was seen by millions of television viewers around the word, when she was desperately trying to secure the release of her son Nachshon from the hands of Hamas militants who had kidnapped him on his way home from a one day-training course in northern
We met in her family’s home in the Ramot section of
sixteen months after the loss of her son. Her story was that of dismay, hope,
desperation and agony.
She was born in
Germany to Holocaust survivors, who immigrated
to the United States
when she was two and a half. She
described her upbringing as Zionistic and religious, bestowing upon her the
values of love for her People, the , and the Torah. Land
Her studies at the Teachers Institute for Women in
granted her a stipend to study in Jerusalem.
Those years in Jerusalem convinced her that Israel was the
place where she wanted to permanently live and raise a family.
A year after she had met her husband at
in Jerusalem, they
got married. They had seven sons, the oldest of whom was twenty-four at the
time of our conversation; the youngest were nine year old twins. Nachshon, her
third son, had served in an elite commando unit, following in the footsteps of
his two older brothers.
She described Nachshon as an average child, outstandingly happy and easygoing. Unlike most of his commando friends, he was thin and small. On Sunday, October 9, 1994, at a busy intersection in central
Israel, while trying
to catch a ride back to ,
he was kidnapped by Hamas militants. Dressed up like orthodox Jews, displaying
a Hebrew prayer book on the dashboard of the car they drove and playing Jewish
music, he believed them to be friendly and entered their car for the ride.
After they had captured him they threatened to execute him the following
Friday, unless their demands for the release of their spiritual leader Sheikh
Ahmed Yassin and two hundred others prisoners, were met. On that Friday, October
14, 1994, Nachshon was killed during a failed military rescue attempt. Jerusalem
Aside from her devastation over the loss of her son, she felt deep anger at the Israeli government for not negotiating with her son’s captors. She thought, too, that the Army should have delayed the rescue mission, giving its planners more time to adequately prepare for it.
In her opinion the Army had made a grave mistake. But as a believing woman she accepted her son’s fate; and, she trusted that the mission his soul had had on this earth was fulfilled.
She alleged that because of the heavy human cost Israelis had paid in their repeated wars with the Arabs, the Israeli population had become accustomed to an impossible situation. They had become immune. They had become entranced with some sort of a mass hypnosis, a force for which she had no name.
She never believed Nachshon’s life was sacrificed in the name of
values. On the contrary, had the government negotiated with her son’s captors rather
than trying to rescue him in a failed military mission, things might have, or
should have ended differently. Military people in her opinion have had a narrow
way of looking at options, limiting their decision-making spectrum. And they were
inconsistent. In Nachshon’s case they refused to be blackmailed by a terrorist
group and release prisoners to save the life of one soldier. But two weeks
later they were willing to release 1,000 Palestinian prisoners when no one’s
life was on the balance (it is worth nothing here that in October 2011 Israel freed
1,027 Arab prisoners in exchange for Gilad Shalit, an Israeli soldiers who had
been kidnapped by Hamas militants, keeping him in captivity for five years).
Esther did not think that common experiences among women on both side of the conflict could lead to reconciliation. On the contrary: Because she believed that children were influenced by their parents, she had no doubt that the Palestinian mother, whose son was killed because he was holding Nachshon as a hostage, was an integral part of her son’s actions.
Besides, Esther was distressed with the Palestinian side. She understood that countries make peace with their former enemies, and that Yasser Arafat was the person with whom
had to negotiate. But she could not accept him as Israel’s peace partner. In her
possession she had tapes of speeches that he had made, not in Israel or Washington,
but in Gaza and
Jenin. In those speeches, which he made for the consumption of his own people, he
repeatedly referred to Palestinian suicide bombers who had blown up buses with
women and children, as holy martyrs. She could not imagine any other country negotiating
with those who seek its destruction at the same time they were signing a peace
She thought that women were certainly able to transform their personal experience into political power. In fact, various political parties in
had pursued her. But she believed that joining a party would diminish her
credibility as well as her voice.